Tips for Getting a Grip on Self-Doubt

With quarantine going on and all of us spending more time alone, away from community, it’s easier than ever for our own brains to become our worst enemy. 

You may feel like you’re the only one that doubts yourself, but did you know that a whopping 85 percent of people have low self-esteem? 

Self-doubt affects your personal and professional life, including your health, and can keep you from living a quality life.

If self-doubt is plaguing you, check out these tips to boost your confidence and trust yourself more:

Accept Yourself

It may be easier said than done, but remember, self-doubt is part of being human. Begin to embrace it and turn it into a strength. When used correctly, that little nagging voice in your head CAN help you make better decisions, instead of rushing things. Think of it as a tool that guides your actions and keeps you from making costly mistakes.

Just make sure you don’t overuse it though because self-doubt can also make you question your sanity and decision-making abilities. It’s a useful tool in moderation, but becomes a destructive force if it runs wild. 

Know You’re Not Alone

Even the most successful people have doubts. They often question their actions and wonder what the right thing to do is. Authors, scientists, speakers…no matter what their field of expertise or level of experience and success, everyone has periods of self-doubt. 

Focus on building your confidence and self-esteem. You will never completely get rid of doubts, but you can stop them from taking over your life.

Get the Facts

Your doubts don’t necessarily reflect the truth. Most times, they are actually mirroring your fears and emotional struggles. Take time to think about your achievements and remember what you’ve already achieved to get where you are today. Be proud of yourself and admire your capabilities.

Whenever you’re in doubt, get the facts straight. Research the problem in question, weigh the pros and cons and ask for a second opinion from a trusted friend or loved one.

Acknowledge Your Strengths

Make a list of things you excel in. Write down your skills and accomplishments. When praises or compliments are offered by others, practice accepting them gracefully, and acknowledge your talent.

Celebrate your strengths every single day. Make positive affirmations and remind yourself how much you’ve done so far. Stop thinking of what you could have done better – you can’t go backwards, so focus on moving forward.

Choose Your Friends Wisely

Negative people can drag you down and ruin your self-esteem. Nothing will ever be good enough for them. Come on, think about it, you’ve had people in your life like that, who are always complaining and never see any positives.

That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with positive people who support you and listen to you instead of judging. This doesn’t mean finding people who are always happy or fakely positive, it means people who truly care and have an open mind and will be honest with you in constructive ways. 

Define Your Values

Lastly, define your values and the values you live by daily. Once you establish those, you will have a more realistic perspective of the current situation. Focus on the things that drive your actions and are at the core of your beliefs.

Overcoming self-doubt is a lifelong, continuing process, so don’t expect it to be magically better overnight. Things will eb and flow. Try to stop questioning your own decisions and don’t waste time overanalyzing every move – trust your actions and instincts and put your plans in motion.

If you need help breaking through self-doubt and figuring out your next steps to act on, reach out!

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